What does success look like to you? What kind of efforts have you done to achieve success?
No person on earth wants to suffer from the pain of failure. When you ask a kid about what they aspire to be when growing up, most will simply say that they want to become a pilot, surgeon, doctor, teacher, etc. In other words, since childhood, we are already introduced with dreams and goals – with a successful mindset.
However, as we grow up, only a few people can really achieve their childhood dreams. The rest is simply following the mass or working in “unhappy” environment they create in order to survive. Long gone the day where dreams and goals fill their hours and days. Then, why can’t most people be successful? What is the secret to a successful life?
Experts suggest that the key to successful life include hard work and willingness to get out of comfort zones. Little did you know, there is another key: to give up. Give up on what? Zdravko Cvijetic, founder of Zero to Skill, suggested to giving up these lifestyles.
#1 Get rid of unhealthy lifestyle
Frank Sonnenberg once said, “You cannot live an unhealthy lifestyle and expect a healthy outcome.”
There is no doubt that Sonnenberg’s statement is true. The most common example is eating habit. When you consume foods that contain too much-saturated fats, your body will react to it and you will be prone to obesity or heart disease. On the other hand, when you consume foods with balanced nutrition, your body will be healthy and you can do more activities.
The principle is pretty much the same as a successful life. When you want to succeed, you should give up unhealthy habits, including shopping spree, drinking spree, or any spree that will put you in debt.
#2 Get rid of the short-term mindset
Mae West once said, “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
Mindset is what makes people thrive. It is also what successful people should have: a long-term mindset. They know that the right mindset will bring so much more than a victory to their life, such as satisfaction. Therefore, you should get rid of the short-term mindset, and embody a long-term mindset.
#3 Get rid of playing small
“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
So, voice out your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and don’t be afraid to succeed.
#4 Get rid of excuses
You should know that your life is 100 percent your own responsibility. You success, failure, weaknesses, starting point are your responsibility as well. It could be both frightening and exciting to know it. But one way of becoming a successful individual is by stop saying excuses and start growing your personal and professional life. “Own your life, no one else will,” said Cvijetic.
#5 Get rid of perfectionism
Perfection does not exist in this world because how much you try, there will always be a slight mistake. Although you might not notice it, others would. Just like in writing, how many times you read the line, it looks great as you are the one who creates it. But when it is being proofread by others, they might find a few mistakes. So, get rid of your perfectionist mind. Just like Kahn Academy’s Development mantra, “Shipping beats perfection.”
#6 Get rid of multitasking behaviour
Winston Churchill once said, “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.”
Every mindful leader knows about this. This is the reason why successful people only work on one thing, beat it into submission, and succeed with it. Remember that, being fully present and committed to one task is indispensable.
#7 Get rid of dependency on social media and television
Problem of our today’s society is an impulsive needs of browsing in social media and watching television. Cvijetic suggested that these two addictive screens should never be your escape whenever you are getting rest from your goals or life. Unless, of course, you goal depend on either.