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Finally, you get the opportunity to take one step closer to your dream job: an interview. Coming to the company building with all confidence you could muster, suddenly you find your palms producing excessive sweat while your breathing gets heavier. You get anxious as you study the questions and answers you have prepared last night, over and over again. To calm down, you try to convince yourself by whispering these sentences, I have prepared everything, I know everything about this company, I am qualified for this job, and My resume is good enough.

You finally overcome your anxiety, but is that enough to get you ready for the interview?

Maybe, because the fact that the hiring manager invites you for an interview means that your resume has caught his interest. However, more than good resume and excellent hard skills on paper, you need to demonstrate great soft skills too. In that case, you should get rid of these 9 behaviours in order to get accepted in the job you have always wanted:

 

  • Come late

It goes without saying that arriving late to a job interview can lessen your points in front of your employer’s eyes. Therefore, if you realise that you have a morning interview scheduled in the next day, you should prepare yourself by setting the alarm, waking up early, and getting ready for it.

Also, it is so important to not skip your breakfast. Why? Because, Lisa De Fazio, a healthy-lifestyle expert, said that breakfast is an important meal of the day. When you skip your breakfast, your blood-sugar level will go lower and it will affect your attention span which later will lessen your focus. As consequent, you cannot do your best during the interview.

 

  • Ignore the body language

During a job interview, putting your hands on the table is okay but not recommended; as it is better to put your hands on your lap to look more professionals. You should also mind other body language such as eye contact, heads, facial expressions, body postures, and handshakes. Poor body language can reduce your chance of getting the job as the interviewers pay attention to all your moves.

Aside from that, according to Gillett in Business Insider, among the biggest mistake people do during an interview is that they tend to “wishing that the job interview will end soon.” That being said, frequently checking your watch or looking at the clock will make it seem like you are eager to leave the interview room soon.

 

  • Poor word choices

Don’t use foul language! You might be excited because getting a job interview for the position you always want is a rare opportunity and you blurt out saying some foul words. Accidentally saying swearing words can indicate that you are a careless person and unable to calmly and thoughtfully deal with a situation. Therefore, you should be careful when you speak.

 

  • Showing boredom

Waiting for your name to be called and interviewed is boring. Everybody can relate to this. So how will you overcome the boredom while waiting? Checking your phone? Play online game? Or texting?

Most people will do the things mentioned above. Why? Because those activities help them overcome their boredom and pass the time. However, doing those things above will only make you look unprofessional and the recruiter might think that it is a good idea to remove you from their candidates’ list.

What else can you do, then? Show that you are genuinely interested to work for the company by reading the magazine or brochure commonly provided in the waiting room.

 

  • Being too informal

Let’s talk about the dress-code. You should not choose a “too formal” or “too informal” dress because your attire will tell a lot about whether you want to be taken seriously or not.

Dressing too informal will tell the recruiter that you have less interest in the company. On the other hand, wearing too formal clothes tells the employer that you do not research the company’s custom well enough so you might not be a good fit for the job.

 

  • Bringing too much stuffs

Bring only what the recruiter asks you to bring, most will only ask you to carry a copy of your resume and portfolio. Bringing too much stuff in your hands to the room can tell the recruiter that you are an unorganized person. So, leave everything else such as your water bottle or handphone in the car so you can be free to shake hands with potential employers.

 

  • Speaking too much

Stop being over confident! Naturally, people tend to talk more than needed because they want to impress the recruiters that they have certain skills and talent. Well, that is not a good thing to do as the interviewer might see you as long-winded candidate. Owing to which, it is crucial to always think before you speak, just keep it simple, give the interviewer an opportunity to ask you questions and only answer with relevant responses.

 

  • Being too grueling

Asking questions during an interview is important as it will show that you are interested in actually landing the job. However, only ask certain questions that will help you increase your employment opportunity such as, “How do you measure success in this company?” For that reason, you can list questions based on the job position you are applying before attending the interview.

 

  • Being shy

Lastly, you should swipe away your shyness. Being nervous 15 minutes before interview is normal. However, you should not show that shyness during the interview. Shyness can indicate that you are insecure and incompetence. A Harvard Business School professor, Amy Cuddy, suggested that if you are a shy person, you can use that to take your time before answering. She said “slowing down and pausing signals indicate that you feel comfortable, that you are deserve to be there, that you respect this interaction, that you are engaged, and that you are interested.”

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As Albert Einstein once said, “Failure is success in progress.” How many times have you faced failure in your life? Be it in your personal or professional life, there are times when failure is something you cannot avoid. As painful as it might be, you keep trying and doing it all over again. However, at the end of the day, you cannot help feeling tired of doing the same things to no avail. Finally you choose to stop trying, forget the goals, and create a new target. But alas, the luck is not on your side. What should you do, then?

People with whom you share this story might respond and say, “Do not give up” or “Learn from your past mistake.” They might not understand your struggle but at least it can cheer you up. However, you remain feeling stuck and do not know whether you should continue or take a break from your career. When everything do not go as planned, you can relax for a bit and apply this simple plan to keep you going:

Plan A: Take a deep breath

This is the very first yet simple plan you should always have on top of your list. To always breathe everything out, you should have relaxed and peaceful mind before starting everything. By doing so, you will be able to think more clearly, such that it can help you come up with a better career plan and find the way out of all the failed plans that you have done.

Plan B: Stop being such a procrastinator

Let’s be frank. If you are an acute procrastinator and unwilling to leave your comfort zone, you better stop reading BUT if you do want to change, now is the time. While people procrastinate from time to time, you should know that turning procrastination into a permanent habit is not a good thing for your productivity. While you are lazily lying down, people are busy chasing their dreams. Time waits for none, so start your move NOW.

Plan C: Stop being Sluggish

If you want to work things out but you do not want to work towards it, your plans will fail EVERY TIME. Here is the golden principle: when you plan to change a behaviour, you should do it on repeat for 2 weeks or a month. During those times, you will get used to the new custom and it will grow to be a habit. It goes the same as when you want to reach certain goals, you should persistently work on but you should be flexible regarding how to achieve it.

Plan D: Be flexible

Being flexible means you should be able to adapt and adjust yourself in every situation. If you have set certain target in your career journey, you should prepare more than two plans to achieve it. For example, when you apply for your dream job but receives no calls or notification emails for weeks, should you just apply to different company? Maybe. But what if the same things happen again? Will you just wait and do nothing, or should you change the strategy?

Well, the key is to be flexible. Find any potential gap that fails you, such as maybe your CV is not appealing or your skills do not match with the position you are applying apply. Here, you should either learn a new skill in order to achieve your dream role or change your career destination altogether.

Plan E: Stop expecting too much

There is a phrase saying, “Stop expecting, expectation always hurts.” Well, this could be true. Here is an example, your boss asks you to give a presentation about a new product. Feeling anxious about the responsibility, you tell your trusted workmates what you feel but instead of giving words of support, you hear them talking about how incompetent you are and that you do not deserve to be in your position now. As consequences, now you feel worse because the one you trust betrays you.

In this case, you should not always expect too much. Yet, from this experience you gain good lesson regarding your coworker’s personality and learn that you can not depend on anyone but yourself. The only thing that you can do is that you should stop being emotional about the unexpected situation and be responsible of the decision that you make. Also, you should always think positively and do not let negativity consumes you.

Plan F: Write more plans  

As mentioned earlier, you should have more than one plan in order to achieve your goals. In this case, you should sit quietly, think clearly, and write everything in your mind. Do not spend too much thinking whether A is possible or B is impossible. Then, you will need to sort out your plans from easy to difficult or vice versa so you can manage your next step wisely and adjust yourself with it.

Towards the end, the most important advice is that you should DO your plans. Best of luck.

Read also: Brainstorm Your Way to Your Destination Dream Job

 

“Love what you do, do what you love.”
Does this quote sound familiar to you? Chances are, this sentence is among the most popular quotes people will tell you when embarking on career journey. When it comes to work, it is important to know what kind of occupation you are passionate about, as this is closely related to your productivity and performance at work.
Some people might think that in today’s tough economic climate, passion is not number one priority in a process of job search. As consequence, some people might end up abandoning their true calls and choose a job they actually hate simply because it offers better compensation.
Imagine waking up in the morning with miserable feeling of not wanting to go to work. While your friends are talking about how much they love what they do at work, you have to put on a fake smile to hide your actual feeling about the job. Then what should you do if you are trapped in a job you do not really like?
The key is to handle such situation is by recognising what is keeping you from being positive, changing your work habits and making a quality work-life balance. Here are some tips for you to keep enjoyment at work:

Find the value of the job

Do not let yourself drown in negativity, as this will only hinder you from finding joy and thrill in your job. Instead, you can try to focus on the positive aspects of your job by realising that whatever you do will bring value and contribution to others’ life. By recognising that your job helps others to achieve their goals and make their life easier, it can bring positive thoughts that in turn help you enjoy your job more. Even if you are not passionate about your job, you should think that what you do is meaningful for others.

Don’t shut yourself out

When you hate your job, you might rather get your work done as early as possible and go home instead of hanging out with your coworkers during after work. You will not care enough to build a relationship with your colleagues, you do not chat or engage in personal conversation with them because you do not even want to be there in the first place. Disconnecting yourself from others will only damage your self-esteem, because having good relationship with teammates can provide some much-needed relief, support, and happiness in the workplace. That being said, you can find enjoyment at work by letting yourself be part of the community, as they can be your support system and reason to enjoy your work life.

Find something new

Maybe you feel bored doing the same task and stuck in same routine everyday that it becomes difficult to enjoy your day at work. In such condition, you can approach your manager and ask if you can take on some new responsibilities in the office. But first you have to be aware of your own quality so you can give your best contributions for the new roles.

Maintain work-life balance

Your current job might not fulfill your dream, which then becomes the sole reason why you are struggling to enjoy your time at work. Such mindset might bring negativity that impacts not only your professional life, but also your personal life outside the office. Therefore, it is best to not bring work-related matters home and try to not complain about your job after work. Instead, you should focus on things that make you happy such as doing your hobbies or something that helps you relaxed.

Read also : 3 Ways to Stand Out at Work When You are an Introverted Person

Have you ever heard about introversion? What is actually an introvert? We often wrongly assume that an introverted person are those who do not like being around with other people. However, that is not always the case. People with introvert personality can be warm, open, sociable, and powerful in their own right.

The truth is, introverted individuals are those who tend to find the enjoyment and energy from their solitude instead of being in the crowd. When they have a chance to take a break, they rather spend time reading or just listening to the music. While extroverts prefer energetic, collaborative, and are typically good at social situations, introverts are quite the opposite as they tend to be quiet and solitary. Owing to these seemingly-aloof and antisocial traits, introverts have been perceived as individuals with little chance of success.

But is that true? Do you know that big names such as Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and Abraham Lincoln are introverts?

The misconception about introverts also bring impacts in how they get credits at the workplace. Because of their laid back personality, introverts are often seen as lethargic and unenthusiastic employees with no ambitions. Below, we share some meaningful tips to stand out at the workplace when you are an introvert:

The quiet power

There are various advantages of being an introvert. One of them is that you can be more focused on certain things, which makes introvert a careful thinker. With this trait, they can come up with better solutions for the company as they always make decisions after a thorough thinking.

Solitude is a good framework to unleash their creativity, as they feel more inspired and more productive when there are no people around. As an introvert, you might not like being in the spotlight, which is another strength you can leverage. When everyone is busy to seek your boss’ attention, you can concentrate to improve yourself and deliver better performance instead.

Talk less, listen more

Many introverts are naturally good listener as they prefer to observe first before speaking up. They are also good at empathising with people, a skill which will be useful when you have to take on a leadership role. Active listening can help build more meaningful relationships and reduce your ego when communicating with your coworkers. This trait will make a great team work. That being said, you should not hesitate to volunteer yourself for a leadership position, as it will help you establish your authority without being loud person.

Shoo that shyness away

Just because you are introverted person does not mean you cannot socialise. You can build your charismatic figure by applying the ‘less talk do more’ principle among your colleagues even when you are an introvert. Another positive introversion characteristic is that they are not afraid of admitting their mistakes and failures, a rare quality to be found in an extroverted person. This can be a potential point for you to engage with both manager and coworkers.

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Imagine waking up on Monday morning and realise that you have to get through another week of dwelling in the same routine. While you love your job, sometimes you cannot deny the fact that dealing with the same old task is boring. Office life seems to be flat and unchallenging until one day, you see this new guy at the office, wearing his neat suit walking like Chris Evans without his Captain America costume. “Oh…oh! This is going to be interesting!” He catches your eyes instantly, and suddenly you have a dinner appointment with him on Saturday night.

Does this scene look familiar?

Mundane routines at the office might become much more interesting when you are involved in romantic relationship with a coworker at the workplace. Office romance could be a sensitive issue for some companies. Some employers strictly forbid their employees to date their coworkers, while some others allow such relationship as long as they keep professional.

Regardless of what your company rules state about love in the office, you have to understand the pros and cons of having a romance in your workplace. Feeling discomfort or getting distraction is something that might happen to you. Then, what should you do if you already fall for your colleagues? What if it affects your performance at work? Read on to find out the how to succeed in your love life without hampering your performance at workplace!

Make it a secret

Face it: office gossips can be really hurtful sometimes. Involved in a romantic relationship at work can make you and your partner become the target of some rumour-mongers talking about your personal life behind your back. Can you imagine if everyone knows about the relationship? Chances are, you will be put under an extra scrutiny and receiving certain treatment from the higher-ups that will control every movement. Not to mention, it will be hard to have a personal conversation at work with your partner without other employees trying to eavesdrop or know your business. Therefore, keep your relationship as a secret can be a wise decision as it also helps you separate personal and professional life with your partner.

Set some boundaries

As you know, you will spend almost all of your day at the office. It means that you will meet your office love interest in a daily basis. To avoid any personal problems that might affect your professional performance, you and your partner should agree on setting some ground rules and boundaries to keep the relationship professional. By drawing boundaries on your own business especially on things related to work, it will help you to professional all the time.

Keep your composure

There will be a time when you have to collaborate with your partner on the same project despite the fact that you had a fight the night before. When this happens, you have to stay professional and do your best to finish the task without interfering your work with your personal problem. Try to forget it first and solve your personal problem after work. When everyone know about your relationship including your boss, you have to always maintain your performance, as it will prove that your relationship does not affect your professionalism.

 

Maybe for some people, having a romantic relationship with colleagues at the workplace can be a way to keep excitement at work. However, it will be wiser to think about it twice before you start dating with your officemate. Know your capacity in how far you can handle both personal and professional life at the same time.

Next read: Keen to Work for a Creative Company? Start with a Creative Resume!

So you have completed your education and graduated from college or university, now what? Once you are no longer a student, you have to start your journey to the real world by sending out your resumes to various companies. Unfortunately, after waiting for days and even weeks, you have not landed any job as expected. You have already taken rounds of tests and attended various interview sessions, but it seems that luck is yet to be on your side.

This might not be something new that the entry-level job market can be tough to beat, especially for fresh graduates. Oftentimes, employers prefer candidates who have prior experience and knowledge in the industry, thus making it more difficult for raw talents like you to get their first full-time jobs. At this point, you might think, ‘How can I gain experiences if I do not get a chance to work first?’ Well, actually there is a way: internship.

Maybe you are thinking, ‘Is it still appropriate for me to do an internship? Isn’t it usually only for students?’ The answer is, it is not necessarily so. Even long after you have graduated, you can sign up for internship programs offered by many company. Not only the best way to gain work experiences and beef up your portfolios, doing an internship will give you a better shot in getting hired later. Still not sure? Here are some good reasons why you should consider becoming an intern:

  1. Gain skills and experience

Having a degree from prestige educational institution will not help much when it comes to getting a job. But experience is. Therefore, you should take an internship where you can put the theories you learn from school into practice and gain real experiences. As an intern, you will get the opportunity to observe how various roles in an organisation work while learning from experienced mentors. Not only that, you do need not be afraid to try out new things and make mistakes, because internship is the right time to practice the trial and error method.

  1. Explore various career options

Unlike a full-time job, an internship typically has a limited time span which usually revolves within a matter of months. This gives you a good chance to explore various career options and learn more from different industries. For example, for three months you can be an intern in an advertising company, then the next three months in consulting firm. This way, you will know the difference between each industry and how each job role functions.

  1. Figure out what you really want to do

Despite having graduated and holding a degree in a certain major, some people are still unsure of what they really want to do for a living. If this happens to you too, then an internship can help you to make the best decision. By trying out several different roles, you can compare the good and bad sides of certain job to then find the one that works best for you.

  1. Transition to the professional world easier

The real world is very different from college life. In the workforce, you are required to be a professional adult who is responsible for performing a task for the company and client. From internship, you can learn both soft and hard skills to do this task well. For example, you can learn public speaking while building confidence.

  1. Get your foot in the door

Internship is a great stepping stone that will help you get your foot in the door before finally really landing your dream job. By becoming an intern, you can build a network, something that will increase your chances of getting employed in the future.

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How do you spend your weekend or holiday? Be it trying out a new cake recipe, planting your favourite flowers in the garden, or bringing your camera for a photoshoot, there are good chances that you want to use your spare time to engage in something you’re passionate about. Not only a good and positive way to let off steam from your weekday work, you can also turn your hobby into a side hustle that allows you to earn additional income.

A side hustle does not have to be something big and ambitious. For a start, you can begin with simple ones, such as making regular vlogs on culinary trip and uploading them on YouTube, or selling items related to your hobby on eBay. If taken seriously, all these little things will eventually take you to a bigger place.

Picking up a side gig does not only give you an opportunity to make more money, but it also widens your knowledge and experience, especially if you deal with something completely different from your primary profession. Moreover, the advancement of internet and technology has made it easier for you to have two or even three jobs at the same time. Many opportunities allow you to work remotely from home, which means that you can be arrange your schedule more flexibly as you do not have to stay at the office all the time.

Still doubtful whether you should have an extra job or not? Worry no more. Below, we share five good reasons why you need to start a side hustle. Hint: it is not necessarily about the paycheck.

  1.    Gain valuable skills

Doing a part-time job can help you hone and grow valuable skills. For example, you have a main profession as a financial consultant in a finance company. If you want to share your knowledge while learning for more, you might want to start making a blog or website where you can write useful articles about financial management for your readers. This way, you can hone your writing skills while contributing for more people.

  1.    Learn and discover new things

At some point in one’s career journey, there are good chances that you will end trapped in a job role with boring and menial tasks that make you unable to make full use of your utmost potential. For example, you are a senior web developer for a giant company. While you are happy with your current role, it is rather discouraging that your boss is not really interested in exploring new ideas. If you want to try out new things outside your niche, a side gig is a good opportunity for you to learn and discover new arena while revealing your hidden talent you never know before.

  1.    Build a sense of purpose

Do you find your current job no longer give you a sense of purpose in your life? If the answer is a ‘yes’, you should not rush sending that resignation letter right away. Instead, getting yourself a side hustle can help you find more meaning from your day job. Even when it seems that you are more passionate about your side gig, it does not mean that you should necessarily let go of your stable, full-time job. You can use the excitement from your side hustle to come to your office with a new zest and energy, thus help you do better at your main job.

  1.    Expand your network

Having more than one job gives you the privilege of getting to know more people and expand your professional network. Building a network base with people from your area of expertise is proven to be handy not only when you are in the process of job search, but also a good strategy to maintain a solid personal brand.

  1.    Get paid for doing your hobby

Earning extra money from your side job is nice. It is even better when you actually love doing it. This will not only give you a sense of fulfillment, but also a financial security as you do not have to always rely on what you receive from your day job. Not to mention, a side gig can open a new career opportunity when you decide to pursue it further.

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How is your job search going? When you are tired of the fact that your job hunting is yet to bear fruitful results, you must be thinking hard if there is another way to land a job. Fortunately, more than just sending your job applications to company and simply waiting for the interview invitation, there is one thing you can do to get one step closer to your dream career: build a network.

Many successful people have proved that having a wide network is not only beneficial for your social beings but also professional life. When you meet a successful friend in a school reunion or get to know prominent recruiter, you believe that it is a gold chance to ask them about an employment opportunity. The problem is, using question such as “Do you have any information about jobs suitable for me?” might sound the same as “Please find me a job”. Or another expression, “Are you hiring?” might sound more like “Please hire me”.

While it is true that you might really need a new job badly right now, you should not make it sound so desperate that then people hire you out of pity instead of seeing your skills and ability. Then how do you ask about job without asking for it? Check the following tips:

Research your network you will ask a job

The truth is, you cannot ask a job to all of networks or friends you have. Having network with many recruiters doesn’t guarantee that your job search will be easier either. Asking for a job vacancy to each of them will only waste your time, moreover if in the end, the recruiters who offer you a job are from the company you are not interested in. Therefore, it will be better if you know detailed information about the scope or business field of the person you network with. Choosing one or two person who are in the same interest with you will be more effective rather than asking jobs to many random people.

Define the job you are passionate about

The biggest mistake jobseekers commonly do when asking a job to their networks is they tend to say something like, “Tell me if you have a job, anything will do”. While you are jobless, you should not act like you will be suitable in any job. It will be better to let your network knows what you are passionate about. When asking a job, you can tell specific description, title, and department of the job you want. It is also good idea to talk about your experiences, skills and field you are interested in to open the conversation instead of abruptly asking a job.

Reject the job you don’t want without killing the conversation

If you directly reject a job offered by your friend or colleague in the middle of conversation, the next thing that will happen is that the conversation will end right away. When this happens, this creates an awkward atmosphere that might affect your relationship with them afterward. Therefore, to save the conversation, you should set up your rejection statement by expressing your gratitude and saying that the job will be in your alternative’s list. You can also ask about the completed information about the job, just in case your other friend needs it.

Read also: 4 Most Common Interview Questions about Your Previous Job

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After sending your job application to your dream company and waiting for days, finally a recruiter calls to invite you for an interview. With mixed feelings of both enthusiasm and anticipation, you are preparing yourself physically and mentally to face the interview session. Most interview tips found on the internet merely talking about how you should demonstrate eagerness  to join the company, the reasons why you apply for the jobs, as well as what makes you the best fit candidate for the position.

However, it is duly noted that while the hiring managers want to see your passion and potentials for the future job role, they might want to dig up your past employment, too.

There is no doubt that having a good track record in your employment history is beneficial for candidates. Recruiters often throw several questions regarding the candidate’s previous career to assess their suitability with the job offered. From the candidate’s answers, hiring managers can learn about their past behaviour and commitment towards the job, as well as predict their attitude and response towards particular circumstances if accepted.

Some people leave their jobs peacefully as they are simply encouraged to seek for better opportunity in other company. Some others might leave in less good smooth process due to a conflict or issue with their previous employer. Meanwhile, an interview is the time where you should emit positive energy instead of the negative ones. No matter how much you resent your previous job, you should not let such negativity stay on your mind. Telling bad things about your past employer will not make you look any better. Instead, your future managers will think that you are being disrespectful to your old boss. And thus, this will affect how they see your candidacy.

To prepare the right answer when asked about your past experiences, check the following list of most common questions related to previous job:

Why do you leave your job?

This question is meant to gauge your commitment at work. While the truth might say that you leave your job because you hate your demanding boss or toxic environment or even that you are fired for some reasons, you should not express it bluntly. Avoid using negative tones and choose more neutral words to share your reasons. For example, you can say that while actually you love the job, you believe that you will have better opportunity to make use your knowledge and skills in this company. You can say that all you expect to find better career path which you might not get in the previous job.

What do you learn from your previous job?

Recruiters want to see how candidates grab the opportunity to achieve personal development as well as their willingness to learn through this question. By knowing the interviewee’s capabilities, this question will help hiring managers see the candidates’ future potentials when offered the job at the company. To tackle this query, you can mention about both technical and soft skills you have gained from the previous job, while emphasising how those experiences have shaped your character.

Tell me the challenge and conflict you have faced in the previous job

This question aims to reveal your ‘survival’ skills at work, such as your attitude towards challenge, your mentality when dealing with problems and challenges, as well as how you handle pressure in a job. At this point, you do not need to exaggerate the answer to make it sound great or dramatic. The most important thing is that you just have to explain the actual problem, how it affects you, then how you solve and learn from it to do better.

How did your previous boss and your coworkers describe you?

The recruiter needs to know how you manage good relationship at work and adapt with the working environment. While actually you might not know exactly how your previous boss and coworkers see you as an individual, you can try to deter this question by praising your colleagues instead. For example, you can tell the hiring manager that they have solid teamwork and you are able to form good relationship with them. In the end you can say how you appreciate them and you believe that they appreciate you the same way.

Read also: Competing with a Friend: What to Do When You and Coworker Aim for the Same Promotion

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Here’s the case: you have good chances of getting promoted by the higher-ups. Given that such opportunity does not come around often, you are determined to give your all and do the best. However, this might not be a smooth and easy fight, as you know that your close friend at work aims for the same spot. In such situation, which one will you choose? Ditch your friendship to snatch better career, or just forget the promotion opportunity to save the relationship?

At some cases, the unhealthy competition for a promotion becomes the source of team clash or conflicts among coworkers. The tension during such competition could ruin the friendship that has been built for years among employees. Not to mention, team members often find an awkward atmosphere when dealing with such circumstance. If not addressed well, this will influence the team’s performance in the future.

The key to deal in a case where you have to compete with your close friend is to sincerely keep a square and fair competition. Here are some tips to maintain the friendship during and after the promotion:

Have a candid talk

Typically, when two good friends are competing for the same promotion, they tend to be hesitant in telling each other that they aim for the position. The truth is, such silence is where conflict could rise. Therefore, all you need to do is to sit with your friend and have a candid talk about the matter. You can invite him to have a coffee together and discuss the issue. You should let him know that the competition should be held in fair way. Convince him that the final decision will not ruin the friendship nor the teamwork.

Put away your pride

In order to get a career promotion, candidates will do their best to obtain higher position. While you need to go the extra miles, it does not mean that you can behave arrogantly by showing off your skills and competences too much. Otherwise, appreciating your competitor’s achievement is a better way to show your good image. Only when you can respect, support, and help each other, the friendship and teamwork will remain solid no matter who will win the promotion. It is also important to note that dirty-playing will never be tolerated. Revealing your friend’s weakness to everyone can ruin both your friendship and your promotion efforts at the same time.

Respect the final decision

When the final decision is made, the competition might have been finished but both your coworker and you might still be awkward to each other. The winner could be torn between feeling happy as he can achieve his goal and sad as he has to his friend lose at the same time. On the other hand, while the one who loses tries to congratulate the winner, he might hide his disappointment about the result. Be it the winner or loser, you should not let yourself be swept in such mood for a long time.

To be the winner you should focus on how you manage the team while supporting your friend. Meanwhile, if the opportunity does not go to you now, you can support your friend’s leadership by being a good team member, as you also learn how to perform better for the next opportunity.

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