Imagine waking up on Monday morning and realise that you have to get through another week of dwelling in the same routine. While you love your job, sometimes you cannot deny the fact that dealing with the same old task is boring. Office life seems to be flat and unchallenging until one day, you see this new guy at the office, wearing his neat suit walking like Chris Evans without his Captain America costume. “Oh…oh! This is going to be interesting!” He catches your eyes instantly, and suddenly you have a dinner appointment with him on Saturday night.

Does this scene look familiar?

Mundane routines at the office might become much more interesting when you are involved in romantic relationship with a coworker at the workplace. Office romance could be a sensitive issue for some companies. Some employers strictly forbid their employees to date their coworkers, while some others allow such relationship as long as they keep professional.

Regardless of what your company rules state about love in the office, you have to understand the pros and cons of having a romance in your workplace. Feeling discomfort or getting distraction is something that might happen to you. Then, what should you do if you already fall for your colleagues? What if it affects your performance at work? Read on to find out the how to succeed in your love life without hampering your performance at workplace!

Make it a secret

Face it: office gossips can be really hurtful sometimes. Involved in a romantic relationship at work can make you and your partner become the target of some rumour-mongers talking about your personal life behind your back. Can you imagine if everyone knows about the relationship? Chances are, you will be put under an extra scrutiny and receiving certain treatment from the higher-ups that will control every movement. Not to mention, it will be hard to have a personal conversation at work with your partner without other employees trying to eavesdrop or know your business. Therefore, keep your relationship as a secret can be a wise decision as it also helps you separate personal and professional life with your partner.

Set some boundaries

As you know, you will spend almost all of your day at the office. It means that you will meet your office love interest in a daily basis. To avoid any personal problems that might affect your professional performance, you and your partner should agree on setting some ground rules and boundaries to keep the relationship professional. By drawing boundaries on your own business especially on things related to work, it will help you to professional all the time.

Keep your composure

There will be a time when you have to collaborate with your partner on the same project despite the fact that you had a fight the night before. When this happens, you have to stay professional and do your best to finish the task without interfering your work with your personal problem. Try to forget it first and solve your personal problem after work. When everyone know about your relationship including your boss, you have to always maintain your performance, as it will prove that your relationship does not affect your professionalism.

 

Maybe for some people, having a romantic relationship with colleagues at the workplace can be a way to keep excitement at work. However, it will be wiser to think about it twice before you start dating with your officemate. Know your capacity in how far you can handle both personal and professional life at the same time.

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Thanks God It’s Friday! After buckling down on an important project for the whole week, weekend finally comes and it should be the time to rejuvenate yourself after all the hectic weekdays. However, instead of relaxing, you cannot stop thinking about your unfinished project and getting worried about the upcoming deadline. Without realising it, your mind has always been occupied with work-related matters that makes you unable to enjoy your time-off. Even worse, you might end up using your holiday to get back to your tasks.

While you want to be a professional with astounding loyalty and commitment towards your job, it does not necessarily mean you should sacrifice all your lifetime for work. Taking work stress home will not only ruin your mental health as it overwhelms your mind and makes you restless, but also damage your body as it steals your sleeping hours that will lead to sleep deprivation. What should you do, then?

Every now and then, you should leave work matters at work and maintain good work-life balance. Here’s how you can achieve a peace of mind during your day-off:

Create a to-do list

Most people start to worry about their incomplete tasks right before the end of the day. When the clock shows the time is 5 pm, they have just realised that there are still a lot to do. This is most likely to happen when an employee does not have good time management. To deal with it, you can jot down a brief list of what you have to do for the next morning in your notebook. This way, you will be less bothered about the job matters as you have prepared for tomorrow’s schedule. Close the note and make sure you don’t open it again until the next morning. Besides task-related list, you should also create a list about what you will do exactly after you exit the office door. You can write any meaningful activities such as having exercise, making dinner, doing your hobby or other activity to fill your spare time.

Make another project

To divert your attention and stress about work, you can busy yourself to do other meaningful activities that will make you feel happy and refreshed. For example, you might want to change your room layout, have the wall repainted, take care of your garden, learn a new language, or anything else which needs your focus. However, you should keep in mind that this other project will not add up a new burden for you.

Don’t be alone

When people are alone, it is easier to have their minds wandering around and thinking about a lot of things, including their incomplete assignments. When it happens, you should find other person to talk to. You should go out of your room and have a quality time with your family. Or, you can call your friends and hang out with them. Talking about your job matters for minutes is okay to reduce your burden, but you cannot ruin your quality time with your beloved ones by lamenting the matters all the time.

Stay away from your working devices

There is a common pattern: you receive an email notification, then you open it and accidently you see other emails related to work. After that, you feel disturbed by the fact that you have not finished the report requested by a client two days ago. As a result, you cannot enjoy your holiday and choose to open your laptop and work on that report. To prevent this from happening, it is important to stay away from your working devices such office laptop or mobile phone. When you have an office account on your own mobile phone, you can turn the notification off until the next day you go back to work.

Article first appeared in HR in Asia.

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You might be thinking about switching careers when the door of opportunity opens and offers you something better than your current position. Not to mention, lately you come to a bitter realisation that your current career offers you neither room for improvement nor path to grow. When trapped in a situation with no-no solution, there are good chances that you would be more than excited to move on soon and leave your company for good. But then again, you cannot neglect the fact that there are some unavoidable risks if you choose to change careers and you start to rethink the decision.

At some point in life, people will eventually make a career switch. In fact, it is rare to find someone who instantly fits into one job and makes it their career for life. Most people change their career for a couple of times before settling down with a job. However, it cannot be denied that making a career change is a big decision that comes with its own advantages and drawbacks. When it is done without careful consideration, this can result in you going to have the same career stagnation in the new job. Even worse, you can end up being jobless when you are unable to handle the new role well.

To anticipate those risks, there are a few questions you should consider before making a career change:

What was the reason you choose this job?

When you realise that your current job could be a wrong choice, you should remember the reasons why you pick this job at the first place. When you can find the answer for this question and reflect what has gone wrong, you can avoid making the same mistake so you will have better prospective career in your next move. For example, if you realise that the only reason you stay in your current job is only due to its paycheck or compensation, then maybe you should not use the same reason to choose the next job.

What makes you want to leave this job?

Before you really leave your current job, you should observe the reason that makes you want to leave. You should make it clear whether it is internal factors such as you have unbelievable boss, impossible job roles, excessive workload, toxic coworkers and unhealthy working environment, or external factors such as you have new career interests or even bored with your current career. When you have found exact reason that makes you want to move on, you can review whether or not the reason can be fixed. For example if your reason is just boredom, there is big possibility that you still need to stay in your current career. However, you should make sure that you will not find the same issue in the next job.

What do you expect from your next job?

Most people who plan to pursue a new job only see the good sides of it. While everyone expects to have a better career journey ahead where everything runs smoothly, it is no less important to consider about the new challenges you will face as well. While you always wish the best for you to happen, you cannot fully rely on your expectation. You should always get ready to face unwanted circumstances so you will not be easy to get down when something unpredictable comes to you.

What prevents you from moving on?

Sometimes, your plan to switch careers will just stuck as ‘a plan’ as you find some aspects are preventing you from making it into reality. To deal with this, you should write a list of things that might block your step and solve it one by one. For a start, you can begin from the easiest one. However, when you find that all obstacles make it impossible for you to move on, you should set up another tangible plan.

What is your plan B?

Failure is never wanted but it might happen to everyone. There is possibility that you are not accepted in the new job or fired on the first week, you don’t get what you expect in the new job, and other bad events you never expected to happen. At this point, you should prepare an alternative plan for those possibilities. Do not let your career change ruin your life just because you do not prepare it well.

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Are you currently seeing yourself losing motivation and lagging behind your coworkers at work? Or, do you begin to hate your job and think about seeking for new career? If you find yourself trapped in similar situation, there are two possibilities to explain your condition: either you are in the wrong job, or just lazy.

There is difference between being stuck in a job and simply being sluggish. While those two conditions have similar symptoms, they have totally different impact to one’s career life. As they have different impact, you should also prepare different actions to deal with the condition. You should switch jobs if you are sure that you have been choosing the wrong career. But, you just need to find the right way to motivate yourself if you are just lazy.

Here’s how you can tell whether you have been working on the wrong field or just having hard times at work:

It is a wrong career:

If you fail to improve your skills despite your hard-work

When you have good intention and make real efforts to improve yourself at work but you always find failure, it could be a tell-tale sign that the job is not destined for you. Despite having worked hard to hone your skills in certain field, you feel that you are going nowhere while your coworker is getting a promotion already. Possible reason for this condition could be owing to your lack of passion for the job. Some skills do not only need theory and practice to develop, but also passion. When this happens, it will be better to figure out your true passion and change career.

If the work ruins your life balance

The wrong job might get you work too hard until you cannot maintain your life balance. While you want to be a professional who love challenges and have dedication for work, sacrificing your private life for work is not the right way to start a career. It is not good to work overtime for the whole week or keep thinking about your task in the weekend, such that you have no time for yourself and your loved ones. Moreover, when you work burden makes you sick and you still think about it, it could be the right time to set up your moving steps.

If you find other interest that makes you more enthusiastic

When the first time you entered the job, you might have no idea about passion. You just picked the job as you believed that the job had good prospect and offered both financial security and stability. As time goes by, you learn that you can no longer find the reason why you should get up in the morning and go to work. Instead, you are more enthusiastic to learn about other things rather than your job. Before ruining your image because you are unable to focus on your job, you should plan resignation and move to the right career choice and follow your interest.

You are just lazy:

If you keep procrastinating

When you have some tasks which you know you can do it well but you choose to do it later while you actually are free, you might have fallen back on lazy habits. Instead of working on the stack of tasks and getting them done quickly, you choose to busy yourself doing something else to divert your boredom such as scrolling pointlessly on your social media, browsing unnecessary videos for fun, playing games and so on. When you find yourself in this phase, you should motivate yourself to get back to work and remind yourself the negative consequences of procrastination.

If you pretend to be sick to avoid pressure

If you are a lethargic individual, once you face a pressure, you tend to act like you are weak and clueless in getting the task done. At some point, you pretend to be sick while actually you are fine just because you do not want to go to the office and meet your boss. However, escaping from responsibility is not a habit that a professional does. Therefore, you should change this attitude or your career will never grow.

If you hate feedback

Whenever your boss complain about your performance, you will talk in your mind something like, “Yeah, I have already known about that”, as you actually know how to fix the problem. This demonstrates that basically you have no problem with the work, but rather your own attitude. The only problem lies in your own willingness to improve yourself.

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Here’s the case: you have good chances of getting promoted by the higher-ups. Given that such opportunity does not come around often, you are determined to give your all and do the best. However, this might not be a smooth and easy fight, as you know that your close friend at work aims for the same spot. In such situation, which one will you choose? Ditch your friendship to snatch better career, or just forget the promotion opportunity to save the relationship?

At some cases, the unhealthy competition for a promotion becomes the source of team clash or conflicts among coworkers. The tension during such competition could ruin the friendship that has been built for years among employees. Not to mention, team members often find an awkward atmosphere when dealing with such circumstance. If not addressed well, this will influence the team’s performance in the future.

The key to deal in a case where you have to compete with your close friend is to sincerely keep a square and fair competition. Here are some tips to maintain the friendship during and after the promotion:

Have a candid talk

Typically, when two good friends are competing for the same promotion, they tend to be hesitant in telling each other that they aim for the position. The truth is, such silence is where conflict could rise. Therefore, all you need to do is to sit with your friend and have a candid talk about the matter. You can invite him to have a coffee together and discuss the issue. You should let him know that the competition should be held in fair way. Convince him that the final decision will not ruin the friendship nor the teamwork.

Put away your pride

In order to get a career promotion, candidates will do their best to obtain higher position. While you need to go the extra miles, it does not mean that you can behave arrogantly by showing off your skills and competences too much. Otherwise, appreciating your competitor’s achievement is a better way to show your good image. Only when you can respect, support, and help each other, the friendship and teamwork will remain solid no matter who will win the promotion. It is also important to note that dirty-playing will never be tolerated. Revealing your friend’s weakness to everyone can ruin both your friendship and your promotion efforts at the same time.

Respect the final decision

When the final decision is made, the competition might have been finished but both your coworker and you might still be awkward to each other. The winner could be torn between feeling happy as he can achieve his goal and sad as he has to his friend lose at the same time. On the other hand, while the one who loses tries to congratulate the winner, he might hide his disappointment about the result. Be it the winner or loser, you should not let yourself be swept in such mood for a long time.

To be the winner you should focus on how you manage the team while supporting your friend. Meanwhile, if the opportunity does not go to you now, you can support your friend’s leadership by being a good team member, as you also learn how to perform better for the next opportunity.

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Perhaps you have been in the same job for a long time and are satisfied with it. However, staying up-to-date with the current job market is essential, even when you are happy with your current job. Either you are coming out as a fresh-graduate or as an experienced professional, it is imperative to always stay up-to-date with the latest job market developments.

One of the most important reason on why you should stay up-to-date with the job market is to prepared for the worst case scenario. For example, no matter how much you excel in your job role and love your current position, unfortunately company’s financial situation could face an unexpected downturn that can force you to leave.

If such a case happens all out of a sudden, you will be left unsettled as you have no idea what lies ahead on your career path. Sometimes, reality bites. That is why you should always be prepared for uncertain times, this could mean stepping out of your comfort zone. Do not limit your efforts towards learning new knowledge and upgrading information, just because you have settled in a particular job.

Another good reason to always stay updated with the job market is due to job transition. Younger talents with unique competencies out of grad schools are joining the workforce, to raise the competition bar even higher. So, if you continue to stay stagnated in your job role without feeling the willingness to move forward, then you will be left behind those new talents. Hence, you should keep growing your competencies and upgrading skills to meet future business requirements and change in job role demands.

Here are three powerful tips to stay up-to-date with the current job market:

Subscribe for a website related to your expertise

In any profession, staying abreast of the latest information and broadcasts is a must. Nowadays, there are myriad websites on the internet dedicated for various fields and expertise. From food, fashion, photography, technology, to human resources, all you can find easily at the tip of your finger.

One of the easy yet effective way to stay updated with the industry is by subscribing to newsletters and mailing lists from websites related to your expertise. Register your email for the website’s regular bulletin and you can get access to a great amount of statistics and data in the industry. These will be beneficial to enrich your knowledge to remain competitive in the business.

Learn new skills

Personal growth and development is not only crucial for staying updated with the job market, but also vital to stay competitive amidst newer and younger professionals. In this globalised era, there is nothing like a ‘secured job.’ If you do not update your skillsets to meet the latest trend, chances are, your manager will update their human capital requirements by replacing you with younger talents instead. Hence, upgrading your proficiency is highly imperative.

There are various methods you can learn new skills without interrupting your productive working hours. For instance, you can join a training course conducted during weekends, or register for a webinar on the topics you are interested in. While you might need to invest some money into it, this will impact your productivity and efficiency at work.

Join networking groups

Networking is the key to success in any industry. For a start, you should find and join local networking groups related to your expertise. By attending these groups, you will stay up-to-date with prospective opportunities within the industry.

Being involved in a networking group also gives you greater insight, on what is going on in the business and how you should respond to the situation. Make good friends with people who work for the same industry in different job roles. This will help you when a problem arises, as they will provide advice and lend helping hand to resolve the issue.

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Initially, when you join the company, you were feeling excited and raring to go. You get along well with everyone in the office and obstacles coming your way are challenges that inspire you. After months or even years within the company, you might be facing tight deadlines, insensitive co-workers or perfectionist supervisors among many things that continuously test our patience.

Next, you find yourself waking up in the morning, mourning for the fact that you have to go to work and the complaints towards your job increases. Also, if you can’t even recall when was the last you felt the exuberant feeling you had like before, it might be time for you to consider moving on from this company.

All of us know that bad days are common as we all face stressful times at work, so how do we tell if we should move or stay on? Here are some tell-tale signs:

  1.      You feel bored and monotonous.

A job role can get boring and monotonous. For example, at times when you are given a lot of tasks, and you are not feeling the ‘challenge.’ When that happens, your productivity could significantly decrease as procrastination sets in. Learning opportunities and future career growth come together with the projects we are tasked with, so if you aren’t feeling it, then perhaps, you may want to consider looking for a new job.

  1.      You feel underappreciated.

Underappreciation by employers can discourage employees from a further progression of performance. Thus, completing a project with expectations met or even hitting above average, recognition usually comes next. But if your employer does not show any form of proper appreciation towards the efforts you put in, then perhaps it is time to look for a new environment where employees are more valued by the employers.

  1.      You feel the lack of passion.

Not all jobs will turn out as you had expected them to be initially. The lack of passion for a job comes when you aren’t enjoying what you are handling or when you have more to offer, but the job doesn’t give the window of opportunities to perform or when the learning growth has become stagnant. Rather than staying there, perhaps it is time to discover your true desire. Don’t let yourself be stucked.

  1.      You feel not supported.

When you have the potential to offer more to the company and yet, there are no advancement opportunities or career growth. Even after speaking to your supervisor doesn’t seem to make any improvements to your career life. It might not be only them blocking the path, as it could also be due to the role you are in, does not have the capacity to let you shine or offer you more areas to tap your capabilities.

Also, when there is no support from your supervisors or team members, your expectations of the job could not be fulfilled, the feeling of dissatisfaction and no sense of belonging could eventually increase with time.

  1.      You feel stressful & tired all the time.

When you are always racing against the clock and staying later and later in office to complete your tasks or meeting approaching deadlines, exhaustion can happen. At the same time, you realise that the time spent at work is way more than the time you spend with yourself, friends or family. That’s when you start to feel weary and unmotivated. These could eventually decrease your performance at work which further leads on to the inability to progress further in your career.

  1.      You feel unhappy at work.

Keeping our mental and emotional being healthy is important. If you are happy with what you are doing and satisfied with your current role, naturally you will be encouraged to pursue further. But, if you are feeling unhappy whenever you think about work, dreading to go to the office, and especially if you are experiencing verbal abuse or bullying, it is time to look for a new role in a healthier work environment.

  1.      You feel unfitted with the company culture.

When you do not share the same visions, values and goals as the company, you should not even accept the job offer in the first place! But what if you are aligned with the employers initially and along the road, changes happen, and you find that you no longer share the same ideas anymore? It is a sign for you to start looking for a new job then!

 

If you are experiencing signs like the above, it is time to reconsider your career and look for opportunities that suits you better. Visit http://jobiness.com/sg/jobs!

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