Here’s the case: you have good chances of getting promoted by the higher-ups. Given that such opportunity does not come around often, you are determined to give your all and do the best. However, this might not be a smooth and easy fight, as you know that your close friend at work aims for the same spot. In such situation, which one will you choose? Ditch your friendship to snatch better career, or just forget the promotion opportunity to save the relationship?
At some cases, the unhealthy competition for a promotion becomes the source of team clash or conflicts among coworkers. The tension during such competition could ruin the friendship that has been built for years among employees. Not to mention, team members often find an awkward atmosphere when dealing with such circumstance. If not addressed well, this will influence the team’s performance in the future.
The key to deal in a case where you have to compete with your close friend is to sincerely keep a square and fair competition. Here are some tips to maintain the friendship during and after the promotion:
Have a candid talk
Typically, when two good friends are competing for the same promotion, they tend to be hesitant in telling each other that they aim for the position. The truth is, such silence is where conflict could rise. Therefore, all you need to do is to sit with your friend and have a candid talk about the matter. You can invite him to have a coffee together and discuss the issue. You should let him know that the competition should be held in fair way. Convince him that the final decision will not ruin the friendship nor the teamwork.
Put away your pride
In order to get a career promotion, candidates will do their best to obtain higher position. While you need to go the extra miles, it does not mean that you can behave arrogantly by showing off your skills and competences too much. Otherwise, appreciating your competitor’s achievement is a better way to show your good image. Only when you can respect, support, and help each other, the friendship and teamwork will remain solid no matter who will win the promotion. It is also important to note that dirty-playing will never be tolerated. Revealing your friend’s weakness to everyone can ruin both your friendship and your promotion efforts at the same time.
Respect the final decision
When the final decision is made, the competition might have been finished but both your coworker and you might still be awkward to each other. The winner could be torn between feeling happy as he can achieve his goal and sad as he has to his friend lose at the same time. On the other hand, while the one who loses tries to congratulate the winner, he might hide his disappointment about the result. Be it the winner or loser, you should not let yourself be swept in such mood for a long time.
To be the winner you should focus on how you manage the team while supporting your friend. Meanwhile, if the opportunity does not go to you now, you can support your friend’s leadership by being a good team member, as you also learn how to perform better for the next opportunity.