Phrases to not say at work

Workplace should never tolerate racism, harassment, or any negative behaviour traits, be it in physical or oral form because the consequences will not only affect employees’ morale but also the company’s image. However, this principle might not be easier said than done when the very place you want to scream over tough project and difficult teammates is in the office. It is not easy to always control emotions in a work setting when we are too tired or too happy.

To prevent you from saying pointless and even harsh things, you need to avoid these unethical phrases when at work, during a meeting, or conversation with colleagues. 

“This is boring” 

It is exhausting to sit for a long hour during meetings, especially in a meeting that “seems” like a waste of time. When you’re stuck in such a situation, never complain or say things like “this is boring” – either loudly or quietly to colleagues. Don’t also murmur those words by yourself. If you do that, your boss might think that you are unable to stay committed and focus on certain things. 

Instead of saying phrases similar to “this is boring”, you can talk to your manager the next day or after the meeting about how you feel. Tell him that while the meeting is necessary, it took too long that it ended up interrupting everyone from working. If your boss is a good leader, he will listen to your feedback and do something about it. 

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“I was doing this and that and … during my weekend” 

Sharing is caring but this does not apply when your boss or HR ask you the question “what did you do on the weekends or holidays?”. Revealing too much about what you did on your personal time could be a boomerang in the future. Even if you do productive things, revealing too much to your employers and coworkers might not be good for your work-life balance. Therefore, you can say one or two things about your personal matter but don’t go into details. To make it more polite, you need to thank your boss or HR for asking about your weekend. 

“It is not my fault” 

Having a job means you are ready for every responsibility that awaits you. Although certain task might not be under your liability, sometimes you are required to take responsibility for it. When your boss comes asking you about a project, never say “it is not my job to take”. Or, when your manager asks you to revise something that is not under your job desc, don’t say “it is not my fault so I won’t do it”. This indicates that you are blaming other people and are hostile or defensive. This can be bad for your personal image.

Instead of saying such things and making yourself look childish and irresponsible, you can tell your boss that you can help take a look at the project and revise it. Yet, when your plate is full already, you can ask your boss for an extended time to do the most important thing first. Alternatively, you can discuss the project with the person who did it but of course, acknowledge your manager first about it. 

“Thanks, hon”

This line is a little bit of a grey line. Calling someone with “baby or honey” will make it look offensive and even sexist. Especially in a workplace where people of diversity work together, these words might be interpreted differently. Remember, how you speak and communicate can change the workplace and work relationship flow. So, be careful with how you call your teammates and bosses. 

“Are you sure you can do this with your condition right now? 

When you ask the question to a coworker after medical treatment, it might sound caring. Yet, never throw the question to employees with disabilities or ill-body. This could mean you are underestimating them. Don’t say phrases that indicate racism or harassment such as “because you are black/Asian/white/having slanted eyes, you have no friends here”, or “You cannot do that with that body” as well. 

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question to ask yourself

Nearly every recruiter (99.4 percent) will be recruiting on campus, according to Nace survey. From the job outlook, recruiters are open to hiring graduates or experienced employees. They also focus on hiring both full-time and intern. 

Are you ready for the workforce, then? 

Well, no one feels 100 percent ready for what’s coming next, especially when it is something new. After years of studying in college, it is time for you to put your knowledge into practice and step into the working world either becoming a full-time, intern or self-employed worker. The problem is, facing a new environment with endless possibilities can make the job search unnerving, maybe even overwhelming. 

When such feeling happens, you should keep one thing in perspective in order to follow the light: know thyself. In search of jobs, you must understand what you truly desire so you don’t have to deal with a job you actually hate. Just like an old saying, “Do what you love and you will never have to work a day in your life”

In preparing yourself to commence a career journey, ask these vital questions to yourself first. Think about the answers sincerely and most importantly, follow your gut feelings. 

Quest #1  Do you have a plan? 

Be it weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly planning, do you have it? If no, make one now. The plan is your first leap to a successful career and life as having a plan helps lead you to something that you hope for a.k.a your goals. For example, if you expect to land a job in the same year of graduation, then you need to include resume crafting as well as skill development in your plan. If your goal is to be fit all day, your plan can include a healthy diet and exercise. Whatever it is, planning is a good way to help you focus and stay out of procrastination. 

Yet, don’t rely on those plans too much. Life always offers a fun way of teaching us a lesson, therefore, be flexible with your plan. 

Quest #2  Where do you want to work? 

This could be included in your plan but more specific. When applying for your first job, there is a lot of things you should consider. For example, do you prefer to work with actual coworkers or alone in your comfort? Do you want a traditional work hour or manage your own schedule? In terms of office environment, do you want to work in an open office or a cubicle setting? 

All the considerations can determine how you want to live your life as when you are working, most of your time will be spent there. Picture your ideal workplace or employer. When you are done, write down the things that are most important to help you bring the job search into focus. 

Quest #3  How is your online presence? 

Undeniably, technology has helped a recruiter to be more cautious about the candidates they choose. Today, nearly every recruiter (60 percent) won’t only look at your physical resume, but also your online presence such as in social media. That said, your social media can determine whether you will be accepted in the company you wish to work for or not. 

So, is your social media clean from negative posts? How about your comments and shared media? You can start fixing your social media feeds from today, search for the work culture of your dream employers and start posting something that aligns with their work culture. This will likely boost the chance of getting a job offer. 

Quest #4  Does your targeted employer match with your personal values? 

Core values are the fundamental beliefs of a person or organisation. Core values dictate behaviour and can help an individual understand the difference between right and wrong. In an organisation, core values help companies determine if they are on the right path and achieving their goals by creating an unwavering guide. Core values also determine how companies do what they do to achieve success. 

When your core values and your targeted company’s core values align, harmony can easily be created. When harmony exists, engagement and productivity tend to rise. On the contrary, when core values clash, you will be an unhappy and disgruntled employee. Needless to say, you might not be the prospective candidate that the recruiter looks for. 

Hopefully, those questions guide you to get the right and a perfect job you always dream of. Good luck!

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11 Important Life Lessons for New Graduates

The day has come! Graduation is your new beginning to achieve more purposes in life. It also marks an important period of transition from being a dependent college student to transforming into an independent working adult. What do you think about joining the workforce and becoming an adult is? Do you think it is scary? Fun? Or both?

Well, the good and bad experiences of turning into an adult could vary from one person to another, depending on how you want to live your life. One thing to notice, of course, the transition and growing up is not easy. You might have to face bigger and harder challenges as you walk along the road. You will also slip and find yourself in the middle of uncertainty. But don’t worry, here are 11 life lessons that can guide you towards the future.

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1. Result matters but process matter most – You must understand that life is about growing and evolving. Therefore, continue learning, enjoy the process, and the result will follow.

2. Don’t chase career, chase your purpose – Career is a never-ending journey and it creates little value to your satisfaction, while purpose will give you what you want and what you need. It does give that feeling of happiness and satisfaction when you achieve it. It improves and betters your life. So, have a purpose, inherent it, and start building it. 

3. Don’t wait for the better or perfect job – Listen, “there is no time that is as perfect as now”. If you just wait, you might need to bury your dream deep down in the ground, so own your time and act on it. Note: be mindful with your step towards your future career and life.

4. Do freelancing ASAP – After graduation, your financial life will be no longer your parents’ responsibility. The truth is, you should be financially independent starting from college. If you are not ready yet to work full-time, then freelancing is a good option. Read on how to freelance here.

5. Blacklist “excuses” from your dictionary – You know that the competition in the ‘real’ world is bigger and scarier than those in your university life. If you are being lazy, there is no chance to win.

6. Start saving and investing – Money comes and goes. You earn and you pay a bill. If you want to enjoy early retirement, do invest your money in something that creates value.

7. Enjoy youth – Well, you need to save money but don’t forget your own wellbeing. Once in a while, you should celebrate your life. And every day, do enjoy your life to the fullest.

8. Continue travel – “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.”

9. Never turn down an opportunity – World is highly competitive and second chance is rare. So, apply what Richard Branson advised us: “If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”

10. Start earning trust – We are a social human being, be conscious about it because trust is the basis of all human relationships.

10. Be thankful everyday – The very last and important thing, you should be thankful with your life. Call your parents, say thanks. Call your brother/sister, say thanks. Call everyone you love, say thanks. And call yourself, say thanks. Being thankful is the simplest form of satisfaction and happiness. 

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2019 Survey-Backed Salary Guide for Fresh Graduates

How much do you want to earn after graduation?

You can dream big about money. But you should be realistic enough to face the truth that when you have just graduated from university, there are good chances you only have little or even no working experience and you might need to go in-the-job-training first before you can earn big. Additionally, you should be aware of the sector or job you are applying to because different occupations offer different earnings.  

If you have no idea of how much you can earn after graduating, these guides provide a brief insight into how much money you will get from a full-time job. Here is the salary insight in 2019 taken from the Graduate Employment Survey.

The median salary of Singaporean graduates is $3,500. The key to getting this dream salary will be based on your university course. And these are the approximate highest salary for each degree.

  •  Business degree earn ± $3,500 per month
  •  Arts & social sciences degree earn ± $3,200 per month
  •  Sciences degree earn ± $3,100 per month
  •  Engineering degree earn ± $3,500 per month
  •  Computing degree earn ± $3,700 per month
  •  Law degree earn ± $5,000 per month
  •  Medicine or nursing degree earn ± $3,500 per month
  •  Music degree earn ± $2,025 per month
  •  Education degree earn ± $3,602 per month
  •  Sports degree earn ± $3,285 per month

Note:

Salary figures are in Singaporean dollars.

If you want to know a detail of salary range per faculty for Singaporean students, you can visit Data Government.

If you want to know a detail of salary insight in 2019, you can visit Kelly Capita Survey or Robert Walters Survey.

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What does success look like to you? What kind of efforts have you done to achieve success?

No person on earth wants to suffer from the pain of failure. When you ask a kid about what they aspire to be when growing up, most will simply say that they want to become a pilot, surgeon, doctor, teacher, etc. In other words, since childhood, we are already introduced with dreams and goals – with a successful mindset.

However, as we grow up, only a few people can really achieve their childhood dreams. The rest is simply following the mass or working in “unhappy” environment they create in order to survive. Long gone the day where dreams and goals fill their hours and days. Then, why can’t most people be successful? What is the secret to a successful life?

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Experts suggest that the key to successful life include hard work and willingness to get out of comfort zones. Little did you know, there is another key: to give up. Give up on what? Zdravko Cvijetic, founder of Zero to Skill, suggested to giving up these lifestyles.

#1   Get rid of unhealthy lifestyle

Frank Sonnenberg once said, “You cannot live an unhealthy lifestyle and expect a healthy outcome.”

There is no doubt that Sonnenberg’s statement is true. The most common example is eating habit. When you consume foods that contain too much-saturated fats, your body will react to it and you will be prone to obesity or heart disease. On the other hand, when you consume foods with balanced nutrition, your body will be healthy and you can do more activities.

The principle is pretty much the same as a successful life. When you want to succeed, you should give up unhealthy habits, including shopping spree, drinking spree, or any spree that will put you in debt.

#2   Get rid of the short-term mindset

Mae West once said, “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”

Mindset is what makes people thrive. It is also what successful people should have: a long-term mindset. They know that the right mindset will bring so much more than a victory to their life, such as satisfaction. Therefore, you should get rid of the short-term mindset, and embody a long-term mindset.

#3   Get rid of playing small

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

So, voice out your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and don’t be afraid to succeed.

#4   Get rid of excuses

You should know that your life is 100 percent your own responsibility. You success, failure, weaknesses, starting point are your responsibility as well. It could  be both frightening and exciting to know it. But one way of becoming a successful individual is by stop saying excuses and start growing your personal and professional life. “Own your life, no one else will,” said Cvijetic.

#5   Get rid of perfectionism

Perfection does not exist in this world because how much you try, there will always be a slight mistake. Although you might not notice it, others would. Just like in writing, how many times you read the line, it looks great as you are the one who creates it. But when it is being proofread by others, they might find a few mistakes. So, get rid of your perfectionist mind. Just like Kahn Academy’s Development mantra, “Shipping beats perfection.”

#6   Get rid of multitasking behaviour

Winston Churchill once said, “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.”

Every mindful leader knows about this. This is the reason why successful people only work on one thing, beat it into submission, and succeed with it. Remember that, being fully present and committed to one task is indispensable.

#7   Get rid of dependency on social media and television

Problem of our today’s society is an impulsive needs of browsing in social media and watching television. Cvijetic suggested that these two addictive screens should never be your escape whenever you are getting rest from your goals or life. Unless, of course, you goal depend on either.

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5 Lucrative Careers for You without Getting another Degree

Switching from one career to another can be tiring as you need to upgrade your skills and even additional education degree in order to land a better job and salary. However, based on data from Bureau of Labor Statistics, there are some lucrative jobs you can snatch without having to pursue higher formal education degree. These jos are amongst popular jobs with tantalizing salary. According to Labor Statistic, these jobs can make approximately $75,000 a year.

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However, although you do not need to upgrade your expertise, these jobs will require you to undergo on-the-job training and lengthy internships. Based on Labor Statistics, here are jobs for you.

Air traffic controllers

  •         Median salary: $124,540 per year / $59.87 per hour
  •         On-the-job-training: Long-term on-the-job training
  •         Projected number of new jobs: 1,000 to 4,999
  •         Job outlook to 2026: 3 percent

As air traffic controllers, you are responsible to coordinate movement of aircraft and to maintain safe distances between them. You will work in control towers, approach control facilities, or route centres. You are required to be on maximum concentration all the times as you need to work night and weekend with rotating shifts. Being an air traffic controller also means you are responsible for many lives, so you cannot make a mistake. A little mistake can make huge fatalities.

Power distributors and dispatches

  •         Median salary: $83,020 per year / $39,92 per hour
  •         On-the-job-training: Long-term on-the-job training
  •         Projected number of new jobs: declining
  •         Job outlook to 2026: 1 percent  

Your responsibility is to control systems that generate and distribute electric power. Most power operator and dispatcher work full time. Many work rotating 8- or 12-hour shifts.

Radiation therapists

  •         Median salary: $82,330 per year / $39,58 per hour
  •         On-the-job-training: None
  •         Projected number of new jobs: 1,000 to 4,999
  •         Job outlook to 2026: 13 percent  

Radiation therapists treat cancer and other diseases in patients by administering radiation treatments. You will work in hospitals, offices of physicians, and outpatient centres. Most of radiation therapists are required to work full time.

Elevator installers and repairers

  •         Median salary: $79,780 per year / $38,36 per hour
  •         On-the-job-training: Apprenticeship
  •         Projected number of new jobs: 1,000 to 4,999
  •         Job outlook to 2026: 12 percent  

Your responsibilities for this job are to install, fix, and maintain elevators, escalators, moving walkways, and other lifts. Elevator installers and repairers often work in cramped quarters inside crawl spaces and machine rooms, as well as exposed to heights in elevator shafts. Repairers are required to work overtime when essential equipment needs repair and are sometimes on call 24 hours a day.

Airline and Commercial pilots

  •         Median salary: $115,670 per year
  •         On-the-job-training: moderate-term on-the-job training
  •         Projected number of new jobs: 1,000 to 4,999
  •         Job outlook to 2026: 4 percent  

Airline and commercial pilots fly and navigate airplanes, helicopters, and other aircraft. You will have variable work schedules, with overnight layovers that are more common for airline pilots.

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You might be thinking about switching careers when the door of opportunity opens and offers you something better than your current position. Not to mention, lately you come to a bitter realisation that your current career offers you neither room for improvement nor path to grow. When trapped in a situation with no-no solution, there are good chances that you would be more than excited to move on soon and leave your company for good. But then again, you cannot neglect the fact that there are some unavoidable risks if you choose to change careers and you start to rethink the decision.

At some point in life, people will eventually make a career switch. In fact, it is rare to find someone who instantly fits into one job and makes it their career for life. Most people change their career for a couple of times before settling down with a job. However, it cannot be denied that making a career change is a big decision that comes with its own advantages and drawbacks. When it is done without careful consideration, this can result in you going to have the same career stagnation in the new job. Even worse, you can end up being jobless when you are unable to handle the new role well.

To anticipate those risks, there are a few questions you should consider before making a career change:

What was the reason you choose this job?

When you realise that your current job could be a wrong choice, you should remember the reasons why you pick this job at the first place. When you can find the answer for this question and reflect what has gone wrong, you can avoid making the same mistake so you will have better prospective career in your next move. For example, if you realise that the only reason you stay in your current job is only due to its paycheck or compensation, then maybe you should not use the same reason to choose the next job.

What makes you want to leave this job?

Before you really leave your current job, you should observe the reason that makes you want to leave. You should make it clear whether it is internal factors such as you have unbelievable boss, impossible job roles, excessive workload, toxic coworkers and unhealthy working environment, or external factors such as you have new career interests or even bored with your current career. When you have found exact reason that makes you want to move on, you can review whether or not the reason can be fixed. For example if your reason is just boredom, there is big possibility that you still need to stay in your current career. However, you should make sure that you will not find the same issue in the next job.

What do you expect from your next job?

Most people who plan to pursue a new job only see the good sides of it. While everyone expects to have a better career journey ahead where everything runs smoothly, it is no less important to consider about the new challenges you will face as well. While you always wish the best for you to happen, you cannot fully rely on your expectation. You should always get ready to face unwanted circumstances so you will not be easy to get down when something unpredictable comes to you.

What prevents you from moving on?

Sometimes, your plan to switch careers will just stuck as ‘a plan’ as you find some aspects are preventing you from making it into reality. To deal with this, you should write a list of things that might block your step and solve it one by one. For a start, you can begin from the easiest one. However, when you find that all obstacles make it impossible for you to move on, you should set up another tangible plan.

What is your plan B?

Failure is never wanted but it might happen to everyone. There is possibility that you are not accepted in the new job or fired on the first week, you don’t get what you expect in the new job, and other bad events you never expected to happen. At this point, you should prepare an alternative plan for those possibilities. Do not let your career change ruin your life just because you do not prepare it well.

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How is your job search going? When you are tired of the fact that your job hunting is yet to bear fruitful results, you must be thinking hard if there is another way to land a job. Fortunately, more than just sending your job applications to company and simply waiting for the interview invitation, there is one thing you can do to get one step closer to your dream career: build a network.

Many successful people have proved that having a wide network is not only beneficial for your social beings but also professional life. When you meet a successful friend in a school reunion or get to know prominent recruiter, you believe that it is a gold chance to ask them about an employment opportunity. The problem is, using question such as “Do you have any information about jobs suitable for me?” might sound the same as “Please find me a job”. Or another expression, “Are you hiring?” might sound more like “Please hire me”.

While it is true that you might really need a new job badly right now, you should not make it sound so desperate that then people hire you out of pity instead of seeing your skills and ability. Then how do you ask about job without asking for it? Check the following tips:

Research your network you will ask a job

The truth is, you cannot ask a job to all of networks or friends you have. Having network with many recruiters doesn’t guarantee that your job search will be easier either. Asking for a job vacancy to each of them will only waste your time, moreover if in the end, the recruiters who offer you a job are from the company you are not interested in. Therefore, it will be better if you know detailed information about the scope or business field of the person you network with. Choosing one or two person who are in the same interest with you will be more effective rather than asking jobs to many random people.

Define the job you are passionate about

The biggest mistake jobseekers commonly do when asking a job to their networks is they tend to say something like, “Tell me if you have a job, anything will do”. While you are jobless, you should not act like you will be suitable in any job. It will be better to let your network knows what you are passionate about. When asking a job, you can tell specific description, title, and department of the job you want. It is also good idea to talk about your experiences, skills and field you are interested in to open the conversation instead of abruptly asking a job.

Reject the job you don’t want without killing the conversation

If you directly reject a job offered by your friend or colleague in the middle of conversation, the next thing that will happen is that the conversation will end right away. When this happens, this creates an awkward atmosphere that might affect your relationship with them afterward. Therefore, to save the conversation, you should set up your rejection statement by expressing your gratitude and saying that the job will be in your alternative’s list. You can also ask about the completed information about the job, just in case your other friend needs it.

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After sending your job application to your dream company and waiting for days, finally a recruiter calls to invite you for an interview. With mixed feelings of both enthusiasm and anticipation, you are preparing yourself physically and mentally to face the interview session. Most interview tips found on the internet merely talking about how you should demonstrate eagerness  to join the company, the reasons why you apply for the jobs, as well as what makes you the best fit candidate for the position.

However, it is duly noted that while the hiring managers want to see your passion and potentials for the future job role, they might want to dig up your past employment, too.

There is no doubt that having a good track record in your employment history is beneficial for candidates. Recruiters often throw several questions regarding the candidate’s previous career to assess their suitability with the job offered. From the candidate’s answers, hiring managers can learn about their past behaviour and commitment towards the job, as well as predict their attitude and response towards particular circumstances if accepted.

Some people leave their jobs peacefully as they are simply encouraged to seek for better opportunity in other company. Some others might leave in less good smooth process due to a conflict or issue with their previous employer. Meanwhile, an interview is the time where you should emit positive energy instead of the negative ones. No matter how much you resent your previous job, you should not let such negativity stay on your mind. Telling bad things about your past employer will not make you look any better. Instead, your future managers will think that you are being disrespectful to your old boss. And thus, this will affect how they see your candidacy.

To prepare the right answer when asked about your past experiences, check the following list of most common questions related to previous job:

Why do you leave your job?

This question is meant to gauge your commitment at work. While the truth might say that you leave your job because you hate your demanding boss or toxic environment or even that you are fired for some reasons, you should not express it bluntly. Avoid using negative tones and choose more neutral words to share your reasons. For example, you can say that while actually you love the job, you believe that you will have better opportunity to make use your knowledge and skills in this company. You can say that all you expect to find better career path which you might not get in the previous job.

What do you learn from your previous job?

Recruiters want to see how candidates grab the opportunity to achieve personal development as well as their willingness to learn through this question. By knowing the interviewee’s capabilities, this question will help hiring managers see the candidates’ future potentials when offered the job at the company. To tackle this query, you can mention about both technical and soft skills you have gained from the previous job, while emphasising how those experiences have shaped your character.

Tell me the challenge and conflict you have faced in the previous job

This question aims to reveal your ‘survival’ skills at work, such as your attitude towards challenge, your mentality when dealing with problems and challenges, as well as how you handle pressure in a job. At this point, you do not need to exaggerate the answer to make it sound great or dramatic. The most important thing is that you just have to explain the actual problem, how it affects you, then how you solve and learn from it to do better.

How did your previous boss and your coworkers describe you?

The recruiter needs to know how you manage good relationship at work and adapt with the working environment. While actually you might not know exactly how your previous boss and coworkers see you as an individual, you can try to deter this question by praising your colleagues instead. For example, you can tell the hiring manager that they have solid teamwork and you are able to form good relationship with them. In the end you can say how you appreciate them and you believe that they appreciate you the same way.

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Here’s the case: you have good chances of getting promoted by the higher-ups. Given that such opportunity does not come around often, you are determined to give your all and do the best. However, this might not be a smooth and easy fight, as you know that your close friend at work aims for the same spot. In such situation, which one will you choose? Ditch your friendship to snatch better career, or just forget the promotion opportunity to save the relationship?

At some cases, the unhealthy competition for a promotion becomes the source of team clash or conflicts among coworkers. The tension during such competition could ruin the friendship that has been built for years among employees. Not to mention, team members often find an awkward atmosphere when dealing with such circumstance. If not addressed well, this will influence the team’s performance in the future.

The key to deal in a case where you have to compete with your close friend is to sincerely keep a square and fair competition. Here are some tips to maintain the friendship during and after the promotion:

Have a candid talk

Typically, when two good friends are competing for the same promotion, they tend to be hesitant in telling each other that they aim for the position. The truth is, such silence is where conflict could rise. Therefore, all you need to do is to sit with your friend and have a candid talk about the matter. You can invite him to have a coffee together and discuss the issue. You should let him know that the competition should be held in fair way. Convince him that the final decision will not ruin the friendship nor the teamwork.

Put away your pride

In order to get a career promotion, candidates will do their best to obtain higher position. While you need to go the extra miles, it does not mean that you can behave arrogantly by showing off your skills and competences too much. Otherwise, appreciating your competitor’s achievement is a better way to show your good image. Only when you can respect, support, and help each other, the friendship and teamwork will remain solid no matter who will win the promotion. It is also important to note that dirty-playing will never be tolerated. Revealing your friend’s weakness to everyone can ruin both your friendship and your promotion efforts at the same time.

Respect the final decision

When the final decision is made, the competition might have been finished but both your coworker and you might still be awkward to each other. The winner could be torn between feeling happy as he can achieve his goal and sad as he has to his friend lose at the same time. On the other hand, while the one who loses tries to congratulate the winner, he might hide his disappointment about the result. Be it the winner or loser, you should not let yourself be swept in such mood for a long time.

To be the winner you should focus on how you manage the team while supporting your friend. Meanwhile, if the opportunity does not go to you now, you can support your friend’s leadership by being a good team member, as you also learn how to perform better for the next opportunity.

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